Saying goodbye is never easy. We like to pretend there will always be another opportunity. That “later” is more upbeat.
Yet sometimes, “goodbye” is actually true. We don’t run with exactly the same crew all through our lives. If that were the case, the kids we were eating paste with would be our rocking chair companions.
Everyone has a different goodbye style. Some like to play the denial card. Other people tend to draw out the goodbye until everyone is glad that it is done with – finally.
Whatever your style, you do need to rectify the goodbye in your heart.
It’s time to sit down and let yourself feel no shame at the feeling part of goodbye. At the loss and the anticipation. At the nostalgia and the forecasting.
Feel it all and don’t reason away any of it.
It must be felt and it has its place.
Think of the Sanskrit greeting “Namaste.” Like “aloha”, it is sometimes used for goodbye and hello. Every end has a beginning. Feel the circular nature of this experience. Add the mudra, hands in front of heart and breathe into and around your heart.
Bow down to everything. All of the things that continue and all of the things that change.
Give your goodbye experience your utmost respect.
Then stay present and move forward.