The concept of breastfeeding seems reasonably simple…until you become a mom. Whether you are overproducing or underproducing, dealing with mastitis, or just figuring out the horror that is pumping at 3 am, it can seem anything but “natural.”
Breastfeeding seems to bring out strong opinions, from parents and future parents alike. It can feel like a lot of pressure, especially when there is no concealer in the world strong enough to combat your dark circles.
Usually, by the time we are parents, we know not to expect perfection of everything we do. Yet when it comes to our children, most of us are notoriously hard on ourselves. We want the best for them; therefore we lose our s@#t on a regular basis trying to conform to the “ideal.”
This meditation is a way of giving this pervasive thought the middle finger.
The next time you are actively involved in some aspect of breastfeeding, whether your baby is refusing to latch or even if it is going well, try not to come to the table with a story.
Whether it has been weeks or months, we start to anticipate the experience, and if children can teach us anything, it is that we don’t have all the control.
Is it possible to be peaceful and relaxed even in the midst of pain or discomfort? Perhaps not to the same extent as when you are feeling great, but do notice when your mind is spinning.
Whatever happens, you will feed your child. You are enough.
When you are struggling with being the perfect parent, rest in the truth of “enough”.
Enough. Enough. This is a great breastfeeding mantra.
Enough of the impossible to reach standards. Enough of concentrating on the details that will not affect the kind person you are trying to help mould.
You are enough.
Your sweet baby is enough.
You are connected.
Be with one another.
Give your best, your best is enough.
Take one day at a time.
You are enough.
And for the record… you are doing a great job, mama.