The day ends. You fall into bed, satisfied with what you have accomplished. You enjoy a deep, uninterrupted slumber.
And she lived happily ever after.
The end of the day for most of us in 2019 looks a little different. We scrutinize what we have accomplished. We doubt that we have done enough. We review all of the things that are remaining that didn’t get done.
We toss. We turn.
If you’re used to creating lists, knocking them off and fighting yourself to find ways to do more, this meditation is for you.
My yoga teacher recently said that she had a revelation: the word “shoulders” contains the word “should.” No wonder the majority of us hold so much tension there.
While you’re busy filling your plate, you also need time to address the load of plates lying in the sink. In this case, those plates may be lying in the form of tension.
Take a moment to notice your neck and shoulders. Roll them around, letting them pop or crackle or fizz.
(I added fizz because I didn’t want this to be an advert for Rice Krispies.)
Then sit for a second.
Breathe in through your nose. Breathe out through your mouth through pursed lips.
Repeat, making the breaths longer, rather than your to-do list longer.
Your brain will interject, and your planning self will intervene. They can be there, too, but they are no longer allowed to run the show. The new director is breath.
After you sit (and here is where it gets hard), try your best not to run back to the life of everything you “should” do and accomplish and be.
Sit and again notice your shoulders and neck. Imagine those “shoulds” rolling right off of them.
The day is ready for you and likes you no less for doing less.