Writing gives people something to hold onto and to look back on. A simple text (or card/note/email) from a friend or lover is there for as long as you want it to be. You can look back on it whenever you want a delicious dose of Oxytocin (feel-good hormone) or to be reminded of your beau in a difficult time.
Speak up!
It is one thing to write down how you feel about someone. You also have to learn to express yourself in person.
Raw words can be so real, yet we often find it difficult to tell people how much we love them. Whether friends, family or partners, it’s important to tell the people in your life how much they mean to you without making any assumptions that they already know how you feel.
Choose words to build them up, and mean every one of them.
Get touchy feely.
Touch is our most ancient form of communication.
People have fallen in love without even knowing the same language. We have to assume that there was a universal language that they were speaking. Ahem.
More information is passed with a single touch than we can even really understand. It’s also one of the least used methods of communication in the West today. There’s an unfortunate misconception that touch is mostly always intimate or sexual in nature. It doesn’t have to be – just take a look at the video below and Dacker Keltner will show you just how much other cultures touch each other in a social context.
No one has all three nailed down and it can be an exercise to work on the one that isn’t the most natural to you. Which one sounds the most difficult or foreign to you? Could you try to do that one at least 5 times this week?
Once a day. That’s all it takes. It may change the way you interact with your current friends/family/partner, not to mention wildly influence the types of relationships you develop from here on out.
Write, speak and touch: the magical triad for enhancing all your relationships.
Drew Hume has a dream to help people reconnect with their bodies and to rediscover the feeling of true relaxation. The arts of Thai massage and yoga enable him to do this in an incredibly holistic way. Drew’s background in Human Biology is infused into his Thai massage trainings and treatments. One of his goals is to help reunite old and new sciences by blending the wisdom of the East with the methods of the West to build a more complete picture of wellbeing for the individual. Every chance he gets he’s out in nature recharging, reconnecting with the land, shedding his city skin breathing fresh air, swimming, walking and sittin’ in the great outdoors. Check him out on his website, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and YouTube.
