Should I get married? Why get married?
Asking these questions with a ring on your finger takes courage. You’re engaged, and the next step is naturally to get married. Right?
But, maybe not.
Whenever a client asks me what they should do about anything, I believe they already have the answer. Regarding the big question of marriage, I’ve got four questions to find your answer.
1. What would you tell your best friend to do?
We tend to be hard on ourselves, yet when our friends come to us for advice, we offer compassion and listening. Get into the habit of treating yourself as you would your own best friend.
Having your own back will help your insight, especially when it comes to an emotional subject like love.
2. What are you scared of?
Fear can drive us to avoid or take action. We think that our greatest fear is of failing. However, I think our greatest fear is actually succeeding and being incredibly happy. We fear what people will think of us if we stop making excuses and start living a life that we love.
Delve into your fear and see what answers arise.
3. How does getting married feel in your body?
Physiological responses always accompany major decisions. Decisions that feel expansive, exciting and right create increased energy and vibrancy. You feel light. Some decisions are overshadowed by doubt and hesitation. You feel heavy. This may present as a lump in the throat, hardening in the chest, cramping in the gut, sweating and/or fatigue.
How does marriage make you feel?
4. What’s your gut telling you to do?
A client of mine is going through a divorce. She will always love her ex-husband and is grateful for what they created: a beautiful boy and years of cherished memories. It took time before she was clear that leaving the relationship was the best thing for her to do. This clarity came from a deeply rooted trust in her instincts.
You can analyze any situation in your mind; however, your gut should have the final word.
You may walk down the aisle. You may not. Remember, life never throws something at you that you cannot take on with courage, faith and hope.
Create a sacred space to ask yourself these four questions. Trust your gut. Notice how it feels. Through better or worse, richer or poorer, being true to yourself is the only thing you should ever do.
If you’d like support in answering these questions at any point, book a session with me and help you get on your right path.
Either way, congratulations on your next step.