Here’s a secret about romance, if you don’t stoke it, it can fizzle out and fade away. We may not even notice it happening until one day we wake up and think, ‘hey, where’d all the romance go?’
Not to worry, it can be rekindled. Here are six fun and sexy ways to spark romance.
1. Sexy Secret Meet-Up
Surprises are sexy, no two ways about it. Put a little mystery back in your romance with a secret meet up. Beginner: One-person texts the other the address (including what to wear or bring, if needed). Advanced: Create a chain of clues that lead to your secret meet up. Date night will never be the same.
2. Try Something New Together
Want your relationship to feel fresh again? Try something new together. That might be a side by side Thai Massage, joining a tennis club, learning a language or even going skydiving. Having first-time experiences together will not only increase your happiness it will give the two of you something new that is ‘your thing’ – even if it turns out that your thing is struggling with Spanish verb conjugation.
3. Aphrodisiac Appies
Mood-making, libido lifting: there are certain foods that just get our juices flowing. Create a collection of nibbles that contain one or more aphrodisiacs. Suggested Menu: Oysters with hot sauce & honey, Asparagus spears with Nutty Miso Dipping Sauce, Fresh Figs, and Dark Chocolate & Maca Brownies. Good food = good lovin’.
4. Train Together
Having a fitness goal is good. Sharing one is even better. Training for a physical challenge together will give you something new to experience as a couple. Run a marathon, sign up for an adventure race or agree to participate in a charity ride; whatever you both like to do, go for it. You’ll share a goal and you’ll both be getting fit and feeling good about yourselves.
5. Tackle it Team-Style
Working as a team toward a single goal is a great way to rekindle that feeling of togetherness. Keep it light and fun like preparing a meal together or collaborating on a creative project. Note – DIY home renos can sometimes have the reverse effect – approach with caution.
Being a part of a couple doesn’t mean you have to focus entirely on the two of you. Spend some time taking care of yourself (visit a local spa, get a massage, take a long soak, give yourself a natural facial) and encourage your partner to do the same. How does this help your relationship? Simple, when you give yourself a little love, you feel loved and deserving of love, which puts you in the best position to share love. Love all around.
Try one or try them all, just remember to try. The number one way to keep the romance fires burning is to put some effort into keeping things hot.